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People think forgiveness means giving someone another chance or apologizing or offering an olive branch.
Forgiveness can mean just moving on. It doesn't mean that you have to be involved with that person or even concerned w them. It can simply mean you have chosen to disengage and wish them no harm.
You can block them and disengage. You can wish them well and hope they find peace.
You may also remain alert and stalwart. People who think forgiveness means the first things I wrote about are the same ones who encourage you to "try again" with an abusive partner. Just no.
Remember that you don't owe them anything. You deserve to be supported to take a stand. As does everyone who has been bullied by someone else. I also want to point out that it is approximately four or five people (again, a loud minority) who keep encouraging you and even berating you to "forgive" by their standard.
That makes them abuse and bully apologists, as well as apologists for all the things the offender espouses, whether it be genocide, fascism, misogyny, ethnic racism, or violence or even the murder of others. It's either acceptable or it's not.
Notice that it has been fairly peaceful for several days. Of course, maybe the box has been dramatic; I don't know, because I have blocked several people. And that is my right; it's what is healthy for me. I don't hate them; I am just done. And that's ok and healthy for me.
Is it forgiveness? Who knows? I hope they find peace. But I will just into the fray again. Most of all, I sleep well at night. Hugs.
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Forgiveness can mean just moving on. It doesn't mean that you have to be involved with that person or even concerned w them. It can simply mean you have chosen to disengage and wish them no harm.
You can block them and disengage. You can wish them well and hope they find peace.
You may also remain alert and stalwart. People who think forgiveness means the first things I wrote about are the same ones who encourage you to "try again" with an abusive partner. Just no.
Remember that you don't owe them anything. You deserve to be supported to take a stand. As does everyone who has been bullied by someone else. I also want to point out that it is approximately four or five people (again, a loud minority) who keep encouraging you and even berating you to "forgive" by their standard.
That makes them abuse and bully apologists, as well as apologists for all the things the offender espouses, whether it be genocide, fascism, misogyny, ethnic racism, or violence or even the murder of others. It's either acceptable or it's not.
Notice that it has been fairly peaceful for several days. Of course, maybe the box has been dramatic; I don't know, because I have blocked several people. And that is my right; it's what is healthy for me. I don't hate them; I am just done. And that's ok and healthy for me.
Is it forgiveness? Who knows? I hope they find peace. But I will just into the fray again. Most of all, I sleep well at night. Hugs.
And yes, I believe these things must be confronted head on at some point. And I will. Again.
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I think he can see our comments. Just not the replies to him. Because, sadly, I can see his vomit even though he blocked me. (to his credit, I found out because I went to block him.) ;)
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It's because of the undeniable documented correlation and causality between certain types of persecutorial and genocidal speech and inciting/ensuing violence and murder. Try to remember the Holocaust. That started with words and by the institutional murder of marginalized groups and the mentality ill/infirm.
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His projecting is gargantuan. I love seeing Amerikkkan white men cry about racism against white people in the US, the suppression of mythical white culture, and fictional misandry. I love drinking the tears of MAGAtz. *sips tea*
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